We feel like we’ve tried to say it every way we can, and they just won’t do what we need them to do!
As I’ve worked with leaders across different industries this year, I’ve noticed that the fatigue of constant change and uncertainty is really playing a part in how we tackle the really challenging parts of our roles.
Pausing to really think about what might this actually look like from their perspective (rather than what I tell myself they’re thinking). Practising meta-communication – talking about the way we’re talking – with leaders and their people, so that we can recognise old patterns and start to shift towards more helpful patterns. Experimenting with different tools such as grounding our feet or shifting our posture so that we can more effectively self-regulate our emotions in the difficult times. Building with leaders the tool kit they need, for their context, to improve the way they communicate with this group of people or leaders above them.
So, when we’re stuck with that same pattern of communication – let’s start disrupting it.
Same practises, especially conversations had in a meeting room across the table from each other time and time again, lead to same outcomes. What could you do differently in the conversations that aren’t moving forward, or are not even happening in your workplace, to change the patterns, stimulate different thinking, shift the perspective of everyone involved? We can change the way we communicate with even the most reluctant team member – but we must start with ourselves.
To find the tiny moments in each day that let you re-set so that you do have the energy, despite the uncertainty, to find a more effective way through. Staying in the storm holds us in place. Seeing the wild winds and lashing rain from a little bit of distance (even a single cup of tea!) can change the way we navigate turbulent times. So as the storm of frustration of messages just not landing whirls around you -
– stop for a second.
Let the storm be separate to you for just a moment, and see what else sits outside and beyond the storm. For it is in that distance that we can see 'yes this stuff is so exhausting'. Our people, and the work we care about, need us to connect with that positive intention and find different ways to communicate, to have impact that really matters.
We feel like we’ve tried to say it every way we can, and they just won’t do what we need them to do!
As I’ve worked with leaders across different industries this year, I’ve noticed that the fatigue of constant change and uncertainty is really playing a part in how we tackle the really challenging parts of our roles.
Pausing to really think about what might this actually look like from their perspective (rather than what I tell myself they’re thinking). Practising meta-communication – talking about the way we’re talking – with leaders and their people, so that we can recognise old patterns and start to shift towards more helpful patterns. Experimenting with different tools such as grounding our feet or shifting our posture so that we can more effectively self-regulate our emotions in the difficult times. Building with leaders the tool kit they need, for their context, to improve the way they communicate with this group of people or leaders above them.
So, when we’re stuck with that same pattern of communication – let’s start disrupting it.
Same practises, especially conversations had in a meeting room across the table from each other time and time again, lead to same outcomes. What could you do differently in the conversations that aren’t moving forward, or are not even happening in your workplace, to change the patterns, stimulate different thinking, shift the perspective of everyone involved? We can change the way we communicate with even the most reluctant team member – but we must start with ourselves.
To find the tiny moments in each day that let you re-set so that you do have the energy, despite the uncertainty, to find a more effective way through. Staying in the storm holds us in place. Seeing the wild winds and lashing rain from a little bit of distance (even a single cup of tea!) can change the way we navigate turbulent times. So as the storm of frustration of messages just not landing whirls around you -
– stop for a second.
Let the storm be separate to you for just a moment, and see what else sits outside and beyond the storm. For it is in that distance that we can see 'yes this stuff is so exhausting'. Our people, and the work we care about, need us to connect with that positive intention and find different ways to communicate, to have impact that really matters.
