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Pause to Sit in the Mess
Published 18 April 2020
I have spent years talking about the importance of leaders learning to “sit in the mess”, and well, aren’t we all most certainly in the mess right now?!

When we find ourselves in an uncertain context and we are feeling stressed / nervous / overwhelmed / anxious / fearful (all of the above hour to hour at the moment?!), our brains search for solutions. We quickly jump to conclusions, answers, fixes that will make that discomfort go away. But as we are experiencing right now, the messier the context, the less answers there are, and the more unhelpful it is to jump in or wish it away.

Right now as leaders we need to ride the wave of emotions for ourselves, and hold the space for our people as they ride their emotions. We can’t fix it for anyone. We can’t make it go away.

But we can make it an experience to connect, build trust and learn from. Whether you are in a position of difficult decisions because there’s not enough work and you don’t know what's next, or you are scrambling all hours of the day and night to create new solutions to problems we’ve never seen before, I encourage you to remember the…

POWER OF THE PAUSE

Pause for a moment for your own well-being and clearer thinking.

  • Breathe deep, sip your water, stretch up tall. Just for a moment.
  • Pause for your people – the calmer you are, the calmer they can be.
  • Encourage them to pause, breathe deep, sip some water, stretch up tall.
PAUSE TO SEE THE MESS AS A WHOLE.

We cannot possibly know all the information, let alone all the answers right now. When there’s lots of uncertainty we need to ask more questions.

  • Pause to Ask. What do I not know yet? What else am I not seeing yet? What else could happen? What else is yet possible?
  • Pause to Listen. People need to be heard right now. For some of us the listening feels overwhelming right now.
  • Pause to Recharge yourself. Then keep stepping into the listening, for through this we will connect, we will see more and we will find more possibilities.
PRACTISE BEING COMFORTABLE WITH THE UNCOMFORTABLE.

Then step in bravely, with curiosity for what you might get right and what you might get wrong. Then flexibly pause to reflect, and try again. Mostly just taking a moment, however tiny, whenever you can, to Pause and momentarily just sit in the mess.

We need your presence and your clear thinking – pausing will help you access that.
Pause to Sit in the Mess
Published 18 April 2020
I have spent years talking about the importance of leaders learning to “sit in the mess”, and well, aren’t we all most certainly in the mess right now?!

When we find ourselves in an uncertain context and we are feeling stressed / nervous / overwhelmed / anxious / fearful (all of the above hour to hour at the moment?!), our brains search for solutions. We quickly jump to conclusions, answers, fixes that will make that discomfort go away. But as we are experiencing right now, the messier the context, the less answers there are, and the more unhelpful it is to jump in or wish it away.

Right now as leaders we need to ride the wave of emotions for ourselves, and hold the space for our people as they ride their emotions. We can’t fix it for anyone. We can’t make it go away.

But we can make it an experience to connect, build trust and learn from. Whether you are in a position of difficult decisions because there’s not enough work and you don’t know what's next, or you are scrambling all hours of the day and night to create new solutions to problems we’ve never seen before, I encourage you to remember the…

POWER OF THE PAUSE

Pause for a moment for your own well-being and clearer thinking.

  • Breathe deep, sip your water, stretch up tall. Just for a moment.
  • Pause for your people – the calmer you are, the calmer they can be.
  • Encourage them to pause, breathe deep, sip some water, stretch up tall.
PAUSE TO SEE THE MESS AS A WHOLE.

We cannot possibly know all the information, let alone all the answers right now. When there’s lots of uncertainty we need to ask more questions.

  • Pause to Ask. What do I not know yet? What else am I not seeing yet? What else could happen? What else is yet possible?
  • Pause to Listen. People need to be heard right now. For some of us the listening feels overwhelming right now.
  • Pause to Recharge yourself. Then keep stepping into the listening, for through this we will connect, we will see more and we will find more possibilities.
PRACTISE BEING COMFORTABLE WITH THE UNCOMFORTABLE.

Then step in bravely, with curiosity for what you might get right and what you might get wrong. Then flexibly pause to reflect, and try again. Mostly just taking a moment, however tiny, whenever you can, to Pause and momentarily just sit in the mess.

We need your presence and your clear thinking – pausing will help you access that.